The Marriage Vows Part 1 (For Better or Worse)

On October 1st 2016 at around 3:00 pm we said our vows having no idea what life had in store for us. The next few posts will be about the real life wedding vows, and some of our experiences with a few of the phrases. First up for better or worse. At the end of our wedding day we were on cloud 9 floating out of our reception high off of love and the perfection of our wedding day. It was everything that we had dreamed of and more. All of the saving and sacrificing made the day so worth it! Then we went from our fabulous wedding to our wonderful honeymoon in the Dominican Republic. We swam with the dolphins went to an amazing spa where we were pampered for half a day, and it was so wonderful! We even won a dance off at one of the shows at the hard rock resort! We came back from our honeymoon like if life is going to be like this together we got this! After our honeymoon we went our separate ways for 4 days Eddie flew back to D.C. and I drove to Michigan.
On October 13th I went to Chicago to pick up my new husband and we ended our year and a half of being in a long distance relationship! Life was going great. Eddie flew in for the weekend so that he could help me drive my car to D.C. from Michigan, and then we had movers that were scheduled to pack up all of my stuff and move it into storage until we could move into our new apartment in the spring. So we had a great plan in place and we were ready to begin our life as husband and wife… Then I started calling the moving company Savannah Van Lines and they weren’t returning my calls. Finally, I got a call on Thursday right before I left to pick up Eddie and they said that they wouldn’t be able to move us on Friday as planned, but would move us on Saturday… So Friday rolls around and I am calling and calling and no answer. Finally I reach someone they said sorry we are overbooked and can’t move you this week. I lost it! I cried screamed threw myself on the floor had a full out adult temper tantrum and fussed the lady out on the phone and told her that they can’t do that to people. She actually didn’t care. So I am crying and screaming and irate. And Eddie is like what’s wrong? Between tears and screams I made out that the movers weren’t coming. He immediately got on the phone and had a plan while I’m dramatically laying in the floor. Thank God for him! I text my parents to let them know what’s going on and they call Eddie to make sure he didn’t want to give me back. He was committed so that was reassuring. After that we were off to the U-Haul store to get boxes and a U-Haul to move everything ourselves because I was technically supposed to be out of my apartment on Friday… I am thankful for having Chase bank because they immediately deposited the money that I had paid to the fraudulent company back into my account, and we were able to put it towards the moving truck and supplies. Because of all of this I was an hour late to my going away party that was  supposed to happen that day.  After the party we came home to pack and pack and pack and a day and a half later we were locked and loaded and ready to drive to D.C.
I still can’t believe that we packed a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom apartment by ourselves and Eddie drove a U-Haul all the way to D.C. while I was behind him in my car. In the midst of all of this I had a few group projects for school that I had to jump on calls in between packing boxes and driving. It was a really stressful time on top of that all of my stuff didn’t fit in the truck so we had to give it away! Thank you to my friend Sherrette she immediately snapped pictures of the items and found homes for everything she also mailed me the stuff that I really wanted!

After that experience we thought we could handle anything then we moved in together into a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment. The struggle is real with 1 bathroom! I know that I sound like a brat, but I just moved from a place that had 2 bathrooms to myself. We were waiting for Eddie’s lease to end at his current place before moving to a new one because breaking a lease in the DMV can bankrupt people. Life for us dramatically got better when we had our OWN bathrooms to get ready in in the morning! Learning how to live together minus bathroom schedules was a pretty smooth transition after a while we learned that having our alone time was really important to our success as a couple. Being up under each other all the time is not healthy and we had to find our own hobbies and things to do outside of each other. Through it all we learned so much and we learned to be there for one another. What you saw on social media were the pictures of us traveling to Italy and fun date nights. Believe me those were some amazing times, but the reality is we had times that were for better and for worse. As Musiq said for better or worse I still would choose you first Love… There is no one else in the world I would want to do life with. He is really an amazing partner, and through it all our love grew more than I could ever imagine.

Image may contain: one or more people, pool, outdoor and water
Swimming with the dolphins on our honeymoon in the Dominican Republic

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

#BlackLivesMatter

My heart is so heavy as I write this post. The recent events are a glaring reminder that my safety or the safety of my family and friends is constantly at risk. My life as a black woman does not matter. This is something that is always in the back of my mind, but every time something happens its just another reminder. I don't want to just become another hashtag! To the All Lives Matter People. Here are some things that I want you to think about. Have you ever feared for your life when you got pulled over for a minor traffic infraction? I have! I remember one night I was driving my new car around town and I was going a few miles over the speed limit the officers first question was is this your car? As I got the ticket I remember shaking uncontrollably because I was so scared they even called for backup! So there were multiple police surrounding me for a $125 speeding ticket! Have you ever gone to the hospital and been concerned about the care that you were getting? I have! M...
Read more

Date Night on a Dime

Image
     Yes we are saving money, and in the last post I gave you our huge debt payoff goals for 2018, but one thing that is really important to us is putting aside time and money for dates!          Just to give you all an idea of our weekly budget for dates while we are paying off debt; we put in a line item of $80 per week to spend for our entertainment. Most weeks we don't even use half of this money, but it is there for us to enjoy one another during this journey to being debt free. Here are some ways that we are stretching our weekly date night dollars. 1. If people ever ask you all what you want for a gift ask for restaurant gift cards! We have gone on so many dates with these gift cards. We got several as wedding presents that came in handy during our first year of marriage. We also got a few as Christmas and birthday presents. We use these throughout the year for those nights that we don't want to cook, or we just want to connect with one...
Read more

Ten Love Lessons From Our First Year of Marriage

Image
As we are on the cusp of being married for one full year. I must say that we learned a few things about what it takes to make this marriage thing work forever. I am thankful that during our time of dating that we were able to read a few books together about relationships. I am also thankful that during my time of being single that I did a lot of reading up on marriage because those books really helped when it came time to actually execute what we learned from those hours invested in  reading up on marriage. The lessons below are a summation of what we have collectively learned in love. Through it all our relationship has grown more than we expected. We have been tested throughout this year in every way possible and the amazing thing is that it is really only the beginning of our journey together! The Love Lessons are as follows in no particular order:   Shut Up and Pray- I don’t know how many times we have both had to do that this year. I know that I’m a trip and ‘I...
Read more