Reality Check

I have learned that you can’t really be good at it ALL at the same time. You can try and be stressed out and never feel that you are doing enough especially in the age of social media! On social media it appears that everyone else is living life perfectly without any struggles (although we all know that this is not true). We still choose to believe the image of perfection that everyone is posting. Understanding this was a HARD concept for me to embrace. I put so many unrealistic expectations on myself based on what I saw others posting. Perfection is what I strive for...
I wanted to have the perfectly clean house. Amazing delicious healthy dinners prepared every night for my husband. Exercise 3-5 times per week. Never be frustrated. All while pursuing my dreams and just making things happen seamlessly and flawlessly. Then I went back to school and elements of my life fell apart…
Before school I was heavily involved in pursuing my health and fitness goals by doing CrossFit. Once school began my health and fitness went out the window.
Then I got married, and I put so much pressure on myself to be this perfect wife and I would be frustrated when the slightest thing didn’t go right like not having dinner on the table before 7:30pm. Then being in school and working full time is A LOT to handle at times so there were weeks that would go by where the laundry just didn’t get done. I am pretty sure there were times that we just bought a few new clothes or washed one load to make it through the week. Then the dishes heck there are dishes in the sink as I type this. So yeah I am  far from this idea that I had of myself. Oh yeah and some nights we eat pizza or frozen dinners Voila is my best friend because shoot I’m tired sometimes.
What I learned from all of this is the power of learning to forgive. I forgive myself daily and relaxed my expectations of myself. I have learned that yes you can have all of the things that you want in life, but delegation is key. I had to ask for help or in some cases hire it. I am all about letting people operate in their gifts! If you can’t clean your house hire a maid. If you don’t want to cook every night that’s why they make takeout, and I must say it has gotten much healthier over the years. If you want to go back to school go! However, remember that some other elements of your life may be out of whack and that’s OK because its only for a period of time to better yourself. Also comparison KILLS! So what if it seems like your friend can go to school, raise two kids, be an amazing wife, and be skinny, and it looks like he or she is doing way better than you. Who cares what she is doing! Focus on YOU and what God has called for you to do not what the person next to you is doing. Focus is key to actually accomplishing YOUR goals. I feel that unfortunately we live in a distracted society where Everyone's life is ALWAYS on display instead of being actually lived. Seriously, how many of you post the ugly first selfie that you take. I don’t! Why? Because we want to present this image of perfection to the world and hide behind the crushing insecurities within. Let’s all start being more real with each other. This is your reality check!
Love, Bri
Realizing that I don't always have to pretend to be superwoman it's OK to ask for a little help. The real strength comes from knowing that you need it! #PerfectlyImperfect #IHateButtonUpShirts #FlawsAndAll #PowerPose

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  1. Tasia AnnSeptember 3, 2017 at 7:10 AM

    This post resonated with me . I often have to pull myself out of the comparison pit when I can't seem to understand why I can't do what others can. Thanks for these words and for always being such a good friend. And, congrats on your blog!!

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    1. Briana MedleySeptember 4, 2017 at 6:15 AM

      Thank you so much for reading! I really appreciate it! I think comparison is the hardest thing that our generation faces these days especially because we see everything right in our face online. I am all for the social media breaks just for my sanity!

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  2. Vivy MotivatesSeptember 10, 2017 at 6:58 PM

    "...comparison KILLS." It's also the quickest route to self-esteem destruction. I loved this post, Bri. Many times, we strive to be the "proverbs 31" woman everyday and assume that we have to do everything everyday! But we do not, we can prioritize (aka strategically procrastinate) and delegate just as you mentioned!

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    1. Briana MedleySeptember 13, 2017 at 7:01 PM

      One thing that I always find comfort in is that the proverbs 31 woman had HELP! She had the ability to do all that she did because she had an entire staff!

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